[feministingforchange]

I just wanna hug (with permission) each and every fellow aspec that I see saying sad shit like - “the ace community on this hellsite makes me want to stop IDing as ace tbh bc with this whole ‘aces can’t be straight bc straight is heterosexual AND heteroromantic’ y'all make me feel like i’m less gay and less valid in my LGBT identity than if i weren’t ace and that sucks bc it took a long fuckin time for me to deal with not being hetero” - and let them know that we aren’t any “less gay” or pan (like I am) or whatever, we’re just… ALSO aspec. 

The aspec part MATTERS, it counts, it doesn’t just disappear, and aspec erasure is something that we’re currently fighting hard against bc it happens to us SO. DAMN. OFTEN. This is what the exclusionists are trying to reinforce too by turning heteromantic/heterosexual aspecs into 100% hets with full straight privilege. This ERASES ppl’s aspec IDs in order to support exclusionary bullshit, which they base in ahistoric lies and bigotry that places aspec IDs outside of the LGBT+ whilst claiming we’re actually The Straights™ trying to infiltrate and destroy the LGBT+. 

The fact is though that aro/ace specs are NOT straight bc there is no intrinsic “het” attraction connected to these IDs, and to suggest otherwise is entirely heteronormative and toxic as hell. Furthermore, I personally am NOT pansexual; I am panromantic demisexual and anyone that suggests my demisexuality means I’m any less pan can kiss my entire ass. What I am is pan & ace: The End.

I hope that this message helps those of you feeling concerned about this. I totally understand your concerns in the context of this nasty “”””ace discourse””””, but it’s not necessary bc you are 100% valid w/ ALL of your IDs. You honestly do not have to choose and anyone that tries to make you choose is not your friend. *hugs if wanted*

#BoostAceVoices

[discoursecrow]

*hugs hetties* you are valid anyway “turning heteromantic/heterosexual aspecs into 100% hets” implies that being asexual waters down your sexuality and makes you less than 100% of your sexuality, something you folks are always accusing cishets exclusionists of doing, while accusing us of invalidating asexual identities, so this is kind of a mess being asexual doesn’t make you less straight, gay, bi, pan, or any other orientation! big shout-out to asexuals who get told otherwise by inclusionists and feel invalidated!

[feministingforchange]

Instant Replay:

me, in OP (a cis panromantic demisexual): All of y(our) IDs are 100% valid, none of us is any less gay lesbian or bi or pan or whatever for acknowledging we’re aspec too, and doing so absolutely does NOT water anything down. We do not have to erase our aspec IDs to be considered valid; we can have it all in that we really don’t have to choose and anyone that tells you otherwise isn’t good for you.

@discoursecrow, the disappointing exclusionist: *after doing some shnazzy mental gymnastics, including hugging the “hetties”* So …..you’re like, actually saying acknowledging aspec IDs waters down ppl’s “Real LGBT IDs™”. GOTCHA!! Way to literally invalidate asexuals you ignorant inclusionist. The actual, honest to goodness, BESTEST way ever to validate asexuals is actually to erase them, Like, DUhhhhh!

me: *looks at the camera as if i’m a character in The Office and flatly asks* … anyone else see what this anti-aro/ace croWnie just did there, like….? :/

[impuretale]

Isn’t it funny how they purposefully snipped off that quote to make sure they left out the part saying “with full straight privilege”? Like that wasn’t the whole fucking point? 

[feministingforchange]

Yeah, it’s almost as if they stopped reading at that point lol. Our choices here are not “aspec erasure OR LGBT+-lite”. We CAN in fact fully claim all of our IDs, there is no need to choose and anyone that says differently is bigoted and just plain WRONG. 

[chronicclungs]

Funny cause neurodiversity “waters down” a lot about my sexuality, my gender, romantic attraction, etc.

But who cares about disabled people right? We’re always the last being discussed.

[feministingforchange]

Yeah for real :/

[feministingforchange]

Such important tweets today from Jesse Williams on Halloween, white supremacy, and cultural appropriation!

[this-is-cthulhu-privilege]

And double the amount of white people are killed by police LMAO 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[feministingforchange]

You clearly know nothing about crime or statistics @this-is-cthulhu-privilege, because we are not interested in “raw” numbers as much as we are in proportionality. 

I’m actually a critical criminologist and let me tell you, there are farrrrrr more white ppl than Black in America, so it’s no surprise their raw numbers of police victimization are higher: Technically, the rule of proportionality says that’s how it *should* be since there are far more white folks. 

But these proportions are still quite WRONG, as the following article shows:

Keep reading

[feministingforchange]

ok so as much as i love my new feather/leaf chewy necklace, it’s clearly not gonna last that long. the silicone is already breaking all over the place, fml. so i’m gonna have to start buying the individual parts in bulk and making my own. it’s decided. 

[forevrdreamingofbetterthings]

I did it!! i found a bunch of options on AliExpress.com so i have a whole array of chewy necklaces/pendants coming my way, with a whole pack of ten (w/ 4 different colours!) of the feather/leaf chewy that’s so perfect to chew but apparently isn’t all that….. strong? i mean, definitely not compared to my teeth anyway lol

i’m gonna have/make a bunch of necklaces with this. i’ll have one for like, any outfit lol. 

it’s just… sooooo goooooood

[feministingforchange]

[feministingforchange]

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!!!

[feministingforchange]

I just wanna hug (with permission) each and every fellow aspec that I see saying sad shit like - “the ace community on this hellsite makes me want to stop IDing as ace tbh bc with this whole ‘aces can’t be straight bc straight is heterosexual AND heteroromantic’ y'all make me feel like i’m less gay and less valid in my LGBT identity than if i weren’t ace and that sucks bc it took a long fuckin time for me to deal with not being hetero” - and let them know that we aren’t any “less gay” or pan (like I am) or whatever, we’re just… ALSO aspec. 

The aspec part MATTERS, it counts, it doesn’t just disappear, and aspec erasure is something that we’re currently fighting hard against bc it happens to us SO. DAMN. OFTEN. This is what the exclusionists are trying to reinforce too by turning heteromantic/heterosexual aspecs into 100% hets with full straight privilege. This ERASES ppl’s aspec IDs in order to support exclusionary bullshit, which they base in ahistoric lies and bigotry that places aspec IDs outside of the LGBT+ whilst claiming we’re actually The Straights™ trying to infiltrate and destroy the LGBT+. 

The fact is though that aro/ace specs are NOT straight bc there is no intrinsic “het” attraction connected to these IDs, and to suggest otherwise is entirely heteronormative and toxic as hell. Furthermore, I personally am NOT pansexual; I am panromantic demisexual and anyone that suggests my demisexuality means I’m any less pan can kiss my entire ass. What I am is pan & ace: The End.

I hope that this message helps those of you feeling concerned about this. I totally understand your concerns in the context of this nasty “”””ace discourse””””, but it’s not necessary bc you are 100% valid w/ ALL of your IDs. You honestly do not have to choose and anyone that tries to make you choose is not your friend. *hugs if wanted*

#BoostAceVoices

[discoursecrow]

*hugs hetties* you are valid anyway “turning heteromantic/heterosexual aspecs into 100% hets” implies that being asexual waters down your sexuality and makes you less than 100% of your sexuality, something you folks are always accusing cishets exclusionists of doing, while accusing us of invalidating asexual identities, so this is kind of a mess being asexual doesn’t make you less straight, gay, bi, pan, or any other orientation! big shout-out to asexuals who get told otherwise by inclusionists and feel invalidated!

[feministingforchange]

Instant Replay:

me, in OP (a cis panromantic demisexual): All of y(our) IDs are 100% valid, none of us is any less gay lesbian or bi or pan or whatever for acknowledging we’re aspec too, and doing so absolutely does NOT water anything down. We do not have to erase our aspec IDs to be considered valid; we can have it all in that we really don’t have to choose and anyone that tells you otherwise isn’t good for you.

@discoursecrow, the disappointing exclusionist: *after doing some shnazzy mental gymnastics, including hugging the “hetties”* So …..you’re like, actually saying acknowledging aspec IDs waters down ppl’s “Real LGBT IDs™”. GOTCHA!! Way to literally invalidate asexuals you ignorant inclusionist. The actual, honest to goodness, BESTEST way ever to validate asexuals is actually to erase them, Like, DUhhhhh!

me: *looks at the camera as if i’m a character in The Office and flatly asks* … anyone else see what this anti-aro/ace croWnie just did there, like….? :/

[impuretale]

Isn’t it funny how they purposefully snipped off that quote to make sure they left out the part saying “with full straight privilege”? Like that wasn’t the whole fucking point? 

[feministingforchange]

Yeah, it’s almost as if they stopped reading at that point lol. Our choices here are not “aspec erasure OR LGBT+-lite”. We CAN in fact fully claim all of our IDs, there is no need to choose and anyone that says differently is bigoted and just plain WRONG. 

[chronicclungs]

Funny cause neurodiversity “waters down” a lot about my sexuality, my gender, romantic attraction, etc.

But who cares about disabled people right? We’re always the last being discussed.

[feministingforchange]

Yeah for real :/

ok so as much as i love my new feather/leaf chewy necklace, it’s clearly not gonna last that long. the silicone is already breaking all over the place, fml. so i’m gonna have to start buying the individual parts in bulk and making my own. it’s decided. 

Anonymous asked:

tuafw you finally get your very first fidget ring & chewelry, and the actual physical relief of finally using them is kinda mind blowing. i will never again go without these things, it's decided - ☀️💜

undiagnosedautismfeels answered:

[sofonisbaanguissola]

i never know what to say when people “compliment” me by saying they never would have guessed i was autistic, like, “thanks, it took years of ruthless bullying and immense effort to train myself into emulating allistic speech patterns and body language” isn’t quite appropriate but it is the truth.

feministingforchange:

asapscience:

Less variance, more scariance. [Reddit/funny]

this is my kind of math lol

[feministingforchange]

Such important tweets today from Jesse Williams on Halloween, white supremacy, and cultural appropriation!

[this-is-cthulhu-privilege]

And double the amount of white people are killed by police LMAO 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[feministingforchange]

You clearly know nothing about crime or statistics @this-is-cthulhu-privilege, because we are not interested in “raw” numbers as much as we are in proportionality. 

I’m actually a critical criminologist and let me tell you, there are farrrrrr more white ppl than Black in America, so it’s no surprise their raw numbers of police victimization are higher: Technically, the rule of proportionality says that’s how it *should* be since there are far more white folks. 

But these proportions are still quite WRONG, as the following article shows:

Keep reading

[feministingforchange]

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!!!

[feministingforchange]