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#gif set #carebearstare #blog love #community supportjackassthe-deactivated20201015 asked:
Awwwwww YAY, this ask makes ME happy so ty for that! And I’m especially happy to be able to help you stay away from dangerous people. I really try to my best to keep everyone abreast of dangerous bloggers/discourses in our spaces/communities so if you catch wind of anything I should warn my followers/mutuals about, feel free and encouraged to tag or message me about it! ❤️🌹⭐️
deactivated674526485976563 asked:
forevrdreamingofbetterthings answered:
Very good question and thanks so much for the support, I appreciate and need it lol. This ace discourse crap is painful and draining but I keep getting caught up in it, mostly for myself and for my followers. I want more education for and of aspecs and it wouldn’t hurt if people started being a little nicer to us lol.
In regards to you Q: I’m not sure how exactly to answer the first part, as I actually think that the SAM is more like an “afterthought” or “addition” to the “normal” attraction model that combines all forms of attraction to varying degrees. The SAM, to me, appears to be where you turn when that standard stuff doesn’t work for you.
To me, this means that if you technically ID as “aroace” but don’t feel comfy or right using the SAM, then your default should be asexual. I don’t think that doing so particularly erases aros either because it’s the same when talking about any other sexuality when NOT using the SAM. You technically drop the romantic orientation because it gets subsumed within the “sexual” orientation. That said, I’m not actually saying this process doesn’t erase romantic orientations from the discussion bc it does (which may be damaging to the aro community, I don’t know?), but the romantic orientation is still there, as it’s assumed within the sexual orientation since that’s the “norm”.
Still, I’m not aroace (i’m panromantic demisexual) and there may be aspecs to this that I’m missing. Would any of my aroace followers/mutuals care to weigh in here? We’d love your input <3
After saying all that, I realized you said you don’t want ppl to assume you ID as aro if you choose to ID simply as asexual. I’m not sure what to tell you about that tbh… I suspect ppl WILL fill in that “blank” for you and it’s not fair.
So I’m turning this to my followers as well:
Is it possible to get around the SAM if you want to ID simply as asexual w/o ppl assuming you’re also aro?
If you’re aro/ace-spec, which of these Care Bears is most like you and why?!?
For e.g., I cis panromantic and demisexual and I think I’m “True Heart Bear”
I am always kind, giving, and honest. I do my best to help others and the world through my activism, academia, & hopefully soon as an educator.
— You can also play along if you have a family member/friend/etc that’s aro/ace-spec! (pls just state it) —
#BoostAceVoices & #BoostAroVoices
When I say “I am proud to be asexual” I am not saying “people who are not asexual are so gross and dirty, I’m glad I’m not one of them”… nor am I saying I am better or “more pure” than anyone because I am asexual.
Instead, what I am saying is “despite all the struggles I had coming to terms with my lack of attraction- feeling broken and alone, despite the hate and ignorance I have faced from broader society… I have come to the point where I love myself for who I am. I am proud to be me.”
So, in short. I am proud to be asexual.
Hear, hear! I’m allowed to be proud of my asexuality without it having anything at all to do with allosexuals (i.e., non-asexuals).
#BoostAceVoices
deactivated674526485976563 asked:
Very good question and thanks so much for the support, I appreciate and need it lol. This ace discourse crap is painful and draining but I keep getting caught up in it, mostly for myself and for my followers. I want more education for and of aspecs and it wouldn’t hurt if people started being a little nicer to us lol.
In regards to you Q: I’m not sure how exactly to answer the first part, as I actually think that the SAM is more like an “afterthought” or “addition” to the “normal” attraction model that combines all forms of attraction to varying degrees. The SAM, to me, appears to be where you turn when that standard stuff doesn’t work for you.
To me, this means that if you technically ID as “aroace” but don’t feel comfy or right using the SAM, then your default should be asexual. I don’t think that doing so particularly erases aros either because it’s the same when talking about any other sexuality when NOT using the SAM. You technically drop the romantic orientation because it gets subsumed within the “sexual” orientation. That said, I’m not actually saying this process doesn’t erase romantic orientations from the discussion bc it does (which may be damaging to the aro community, I don’t know?), but the romantic orientation is still there, as it’s assumed within the sexual orientation since that’s the “norm”.
Still, I’m not aroace (i’m panromantic demisexual) and there may be aspecs to this that I’m missing. Would any of my aroace followers/mutuals care to weigh in here? We’d love your input <3
After saying all that, I realized you said you don’t want ppl to assume you ID as aro if you choose to ID simply as asexual. I’m not sure what to tell you about that tbh… I suspect ppl WILL fill in that “blank” for you and it’s not fair.
So I’m turning this to my followers as well:
Is it possible to get around the SAM if you want to ID simply as asexual w/o ppl assuming you’re also aro?
@marrin2021 - Thanks so much for this kind message and I’m sorry I’m so late getting back to you. As a cis panromantic demisexual I really do feel your pain wrt to the Ace Discord™ and that’s pm why I’m doing this. I wanna say more but the brain fog from the vertigo induced by heat & humidity so I’m pretty out of it atm. But yeah, I’m with ya and thanks so much! 💜
In case you guys didn’t know, there are a few really awesome “________, not discourse” blogs popping up that spam the ace discourse tag with cute pictures. It’s supposed to help stop people from going into the tag looking for emotional self-harm, but it also just helps break up a bunch of the nastiness in the tag.
The ones I know about so far are @catsnotdiscourse (the original), @plantsnotdiscourse, @pupsnotdiscourse, and @bunsnotdiscourse.
If you know of any others, feel free to add!
excalibelle asked:
Yes you have it exactly right and I would love it if you’d join in on the #CareBearStare with us. I’ve been told several times already that it’s been helping people who use the tag this way so that’s a HUGE win right there. THANK YOU!!!
Verified non-profit providing warm sleeping space to youth 18-24 during cold months is gearing up to buy supplies and food for the cold season. They provide showers, safe sleeping space, dinner, breakfast and a snack for the day. Winter low temps in Nashville range from the teens. Yes, the south freezes. If you want to donate, their website is HERE. Tell them Tracy sent you.
Please reblog.
PLEASE HELP!!!!
Judging by the notes, very few people care about homeless LGBTQIAP+ youth.
For real, it’s heartbreaking tbqh *cries*
The Care Bears’ ultimate weapon is the “Care Bear Stare” (a.k.a. “Belly Magic”), in which the collected Bears stand together and radiate light from their respective tummy symbols. These combine to form a ray of love and good cheer which could bring care and joy into the target’s heart.
The #CareBearStare is our ultimate weapon against the hate!
(via carebearsnotdiscourse)
Tag your pics with #CareBearStare and I’ll boost them twice! Once on FFC and then on CBND. We are always stronger together, so let’s “stare down” the discourse with our love & humour to end this hellscape once and for all 💗
(via feministingforchange)
