A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

PSA

[feministingforchange]

Allosexual = Person that does not ID as ace-spec

Alloromantic = Person that does not ID as aro-spec

IOW, they assume nothing about anyone’s sexuality or romantic life, they only assume a person does not ID on the ace or aro spectrum.

That’s it, that’s all, the end.

They harm literally no one.

#BoostAceVoices #BoostAroVoices

PSA

[feministingforchange]

Allosexual = Person that does not ID as ace-spec

Alloromantic = Person that does not ID as aro-spec

IOW, they assume nothing about anyone’s sexuality or romantic life, they only assume a person does not ID on the ace or aro spectrum.

That’s it, that’s all, the end.

They harm literally no one.

#BoostAceVoices #BoostAroVoices

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

A PSA about the SAM:

feministingforchange:

allyonthego:

feministingforchange:

feministingforchange:

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

@bunnycourse 

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

PSA

[feministingforchange]

Allosexual = Person that does not ID as ace-spec

Alloromantic = Person that does not ID as aro-spec

IOW, they assume nothing about anyone’s sexuality or romantic life, they only assume a person does not ID on the ace or aro spectrum.

That’s it, that’s all, the end.

They harm literally no one.

#BoostAceVoices #BoostAroVoices

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

PSA

[feministingforchange]

Allosexual = Person that does not ID as ace-spec

Alloromantic = Person that does not ID as aro-spec

IOW, they assume nothing about anyone’s sexuality or romantic life, they only assume a person does not ID on the ace or aro spectrum.

That’s it, that’s all, the end.

They harm literally no one.

#BoostAceVoices #BoostAroVoices

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

A PSA about the SAM:

[feministingforchange]

SAM = split attraction model

Listen, the SAM is a wicked awesome thing that helps a lot of folks understand their romantic and sexual attractions better. BUT, as a card carrying aspec that uses the SAM, I want everyone to know that it’s super duper important that it not be applied to ppl who don’t use it on themselves. People don’t like this, largely bc they find it sexualizing. Whether or not you agree with that, their feelings should be respected 10000%. 

This means that the SAM should NOT be your first assumption about a person when they tell you their orientation. The standard IS “no-SAM”, even if they tell you they’re aspec, and this isn’t aphobic or anything; it just makes good sense (since not all aspecs use the SAM) and is respectful of other ppl’s feelings. 

You really can’t lose if you follow these rules. :) 

tl;dr - Until a person explicitly uses the SAM to describe themselves, NEVER use it on them. 

This has been a PSA!

#BoostAceVoices

[feministingforchange]

@bunnycourse 

[allyonthego]

I love that this is written to explicitly include the fact that some people are JUST asexual, or are only comfortable IDing as asexual. So often, when I tell people I am asexual, if they have any info on asexuality, they will ask me, “what is your romantic orientation?” and they THINK they’re being understanding, but there’s a history of aphobes trying to get at what an asexual person’s “real” orientation is, and it ALWAYS feels like that’s what I’m being asked. I don’t know how to answer that, and it feels like erasure when it’s brought up.

A+++ PSA

[feministingforchange]

[edgebug]

“how can you be intimate with someone if you’re aromantic??”

sharing secrets, trusting them with your life, telling them about that stupid thing you did when you were 14 and haven’t told anyone else since, being there for them any time day or night, talking til three in the morning, letting yourself cry around them, sharing grief, sharing joy, getting excited about the things they’re excited about just because you love to see them so happy about something

[dissociacetion]

an aro positivity post 😭😭😭 that lists ways to be intimate with someone 😭😭😭 that doesn’t alienate the touch averse 😭😭😭 and people with no/low empathy 😭😭😭

[feministingforchange]

#BoostAroVoices